If you think your child is bullying other children it is important to:
Don’t condemn your child, but try to quietly find out what is happening, and why (see below)
Condemn your child’s bullying behaviour, but avoid labelling your child a ‘bully’
Ask your child if they understand the harm they may be causing, including any possible consequences to themselves.
Talk to their friends, teachers and anyone else who may be able to give you more information
Seek help and support to resolve any underlying issue(s)
Co-operate with the school about their behaviour. Arrange for regular reports to update you on your child’s progress.
Ensure that your child apologises to everyone who was affected by their behaviour
Set positive goals for your child, praise them when they achive these and reward good behaviour.
There are a number of different traumas children may experience in their lives, any of which may lead to them bullying other children for a short period of time and possibly a lot longer if the issue(s) remain unresolved.
These may include:
Violent arguments between parents
Parents getting divorced
Death of a relative or someone close to them
Neglect or abuse at home
Being bullied by a brother or sister
Being bullied by other children
Watching disturbing films/programmes on TV or video (meant for adult viewing)
Other reasons why children exhibit bullying behaviour may be:
An inability to make friends or maintain friendships
Being used to getting their own way at home, but not at school
Schoolwork is not challenging them enough
They are behind with their schoolwork
They have friends who are part of a bullying gang and don’t want to be bullied themselves